What do you want?

That could be read as “What do you want?”, like what one might say to an annoying person who’s interrupted you for the tenth time. But in this case, I mean it to be read in the most sincere way as “What do ­ you want?” Really. What do you want for you?

We’re well into the new year. Christmas decorations are packed away. Kids have gone back to school. You’re finally getting back into the “me, myself and I” groove, so what’s next? What’s next for you? I could ask “What do you want to be when you grow up?”, but better phrased as “Who do you want to be next?” Think about the possibilities!

Isn’t this the right time to reinvent yourself, again? That’s right, I said again. You’ve done it a hundred times already – child to adult, single to couple, not mom to mom. That’s just life. We change.  Constantly. It never stops. Why not do it with intention this time?

What’s there, hiding in your psyche, in the back of your mind that you want to do or be? A potter? A baker? A candlestick maker? More outgoing? Kid’s counsellor? Journalist? Rock climber? The possibilities are endless!

Having trouble ferreting out what ­you want? No surprise there. Don’t be hard on yourself! After twenty-something years of being mother, wife and chief cook and bottle washer, who wouldn’t have a hard time knowing what Me wants?

Figuring it out may take some reflection. Maybe a try creating a vision board. Or a good chat with an old friend, someone who knew you way back when. You’ll get clear on it son enough. Inspiration will shine.

Once you know what you want for yourself in the next chapter of your life. Once you’got that image in your head that makes you smile, you need to make it yours. Take the first step. Book that appointment. Borrow a how-to book from the library. Find a mentor on the Internet. Fun, right?

Commit. No excuses. Do not use your age as a factor. What’s that old line about not waiting ‘til you lose twenty pounds – you need to move forward – accept the fact that you are going to be a slightly pudgy opera singer.

The you have to talk the walk and say those magic words: I am. Practice saying “I am ________”. “I am a chocolatier.” I am a painter.” “I am outgoing.” This is a bit of tough love.  Although said with fierce pride and admiration, “I am a Mom.” should no longer be the first words out of your mouth. You are you. You are who you choose to be. Empowering, no?

Next, you have to walk the talk. You have your vision, your goal. Then you need the action plan. What are the next steps? Break them down. What’s one thing you can do this week to take you one step closer to that new you? Exciting, isn’t it?

Remember, you’re a pro. You’ve got this.

Where are you going next? Who do you want to be? Share your thoughts in the comments below. We’re listening.

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