We’ve talked about it before. Your know how important friends are in your life. Sometimes more so than siblings, they are your bedrock, your foundation. They forgive your messy bun, ugly sweats and sloppy confessions over one too many glasses of wine. She is Ethel to your Lucy.
But what about the ones who have slipped away? As you’ve grown, you grew apart, went away. Life took you in different directions. No biggie, life just happens. The question is: to reconnect or not to reconnect?
Facebook and the Internet make finding long lost friends almost a no-brainer. And reconnecting can be fabulous, or not. Best case scenario – you pick up where you left off and it seems like you’ve never been apart. It’s all sunshine and lollipops. Worst case? You remember very quickly exactly you lost touch. Nails on a chalkboard; you can’t wait to get out of there. I’ve had them go both ways, but honestly, usually it ends up somewhere in the middle, a happy medium.
I recently had a lovely reunion with someone I hadn’t seen in over twenty years. So much had changed in both of our lives, but when we sat down to coffee, we chatted non-stop for almost two hours. It was lovely. A few years ago, though, I met up with an old grade school friend and ouch! No sunshine or lollipops that time. Was it worth it? Absolutely. Will I meet up with her again? Not likely. We’re just in different places; different people.
If you do decide to go for it, maybe take it in baby steps – meet for coffee or a drink rather than full on dinner. If she lives out of town, you could maybe do a Skype call. Maybe even start with a few email or Facebook exchanges to see how things go.
If you’re feeling tentative about it, you don’t have to meet, but remember time has passed for them, too. Things change. Reconnecting could be really rewarding… for both of you.
(By the way, ever wondered what “auld lang syne” means? Apparently it means “time’s gone by”.)
Have you reconnected with old friends recently? How did it go? Have you been to your high school reunion? Share your stories in the comments below. We’d love to hear.